self defense


I Promise, Your BJJ Game Won’t Disappear During Quarantine 1

It’s a tough time to be a BJJ addict, amirite ladies? Many of us have been out of the gym since late March or early April. Some of us, like me, are still out because our life circumstances prevent us from going back safely, even if everyone is just doing […]


Three Powerful Steps When Encountering Naysayers about Your BJJ Addiction 1

  “You’re off to class again?  How often do you have to go?  Why don’t you try something safer?” an anxiety-prone mother asked her 30-year-old adult daughter. Do you have friends, family, coworkers, or loved ones who simply do not understand?  They have never walked in your footsteps, or rather, […]


How to Come Back Stronger 3

Imagine that you’re seriously injured and can’t do what you love–jiu jitsu– for at least six months.  You wonder how you’ll get through those long months of not training.  You finally get back on the mats and then bam.  Covid-19 closes the gym for the foreseeable future.  It happened to […]


How a Woman Who Qualifies for AARP Fell in Love with BJJ 3

He drags me off balance. Suddenly, I’m flat on my back with him on top of me. But instead of panicking, I cross my wrists, sink my hands deep into his collar, and twist. My knuckles press the sides of his neck. For a few seconds he tries to fight, […]


Living the BJJ Van Lifestyle 2

We all have those “What if?” moments in our lives. These moments can impact our lives in ways we cannot even possibly fathom. They can even be as small as changing to a new fabric softener, a different restaurant, or taking a different way home. They can be major changes […]


The Privilege of Training 1

This global pandemic has left me missing several aspects of my daily life, one of the most prominent among them being jiu-jitsu. Something that has become such a large part of my weekly routine, has left a big hole in the wake of its absence. Jiu-jitsu is not only one […]


PANDEMIC of COMPASSION

We like to think we’re in control. We schedule. We work. We workout. We do the things. Sudden events beyond our control show us that we are not always in the “driver’s seat” even when we are. In 2004, I was in a car accident that shattered my right ankle, […]


Training With Your Significant Other

  Not everyone has trouble training with their significant other and that’s wonderful.  I’m genuinely happy for them. I am not one of them.  I am one of those, that no matter who wins or loses the match, or who is drilling the move while the other is the dummy, […]


If You Build It They Will Come

The Southern California ladies of Jiu Jitsu had been begging Shawn Fowler of Five Grappling to organize an all-women’s tournament. He tried a few, but as much as the women said they wanted this opportunity, very few would actually sign up. Jiu Jitsu has grown rapidly in the state, and […]