self defense


Tips To Improve Women’s Expriences In Your Gym 1

  I believe most coaches and gym owners want women (and all students) to feel comfortable and safe when training. It’s important to set a tone in your gym. How do you know if your gym is both safe for and accepting of women? How can you retain female students?  […]


Learning the Language of Guard 1

  As a smaller BJJ player, I always thought of myself as a passer.  Playing guard always felt restrictive, a completely different world from the mobile passing game I preferred. Although I knew some techniques playing guard, I looked at guard as just a way to plug a hole in […]


Remembering to Breathe 1

  You know that soul-crushing moment when your opponent passes your guard to secure side control…then they settle in heart to heart and you just feel the weight suddenly crushing your very existence? Of course it feels great when you’re the one doing the soul-crushing (and bonus points when you […]


Is It All About Me?

  I sit resting in my favorite recliner with my foot  up and a knee bandaged and covered in ice packs. I had knee surgery today because of an injury I acquired while practicing take downs for my first competition. My husband diligently helps me with the rotating of ice […]


The Spirit of Resilience

As soon as I got off my call with Mary Aldana, the only thing I wanted to do was put on my gi and get on the mat. If it had not been 6:00 am, I just might have! Mary’s enthusiasm about Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and her resilient spirit echoed in […]


Finding Strength in Trauma 1

    Only a small percentage of people understand what it is we do, this sport called Jiu Jitsu. Very few get it for what it really is; many others portray it as violent or find it invasive. I’ll admit it I too saw it this way, but now it […]


I Promise, Your BJJ Game Won’t Disappear During Quarantine 1

It’s a tough time to be a BJJ addict, amirite ladies? Many of us have been out of the gym since late March or early April. Some of us, like me, are still out because our life circumstances prevent us from going back safely, even if everyone is just doing […]


Three Powerful Steps When Encountering Naysayers about Your BJJ Addiction 1

  “You’re off to class again?  How often do you have to go?  Why don’t you try something safer?” an anxiety-prone mother asked her 30-year-old adult daughter. Do you have friends, family, coworkers, or loved ones who simply do not understand?  They have never walked in your footsteps, or rather, […]


How to Come Back Stronger 3

Imagine that you’re seriously injured and can’t do what you love–jiu jitsu– for at least six months.  You wonder how you’ll get through those long months of not training.  You finally get back on the mats and then bam.  Covid-19 closes the gym for the foreseeable future.  It happened to […]