self confidence


Teaching: It’s All in the Timing

  If one of your BJJ goals is to become a great BJJ instructor, it can be hard to know where to start, much less how to improve. However, there’s one skill I learned as a classroom teacher that I’ve transferred to the mats, helping me feel at ease and […]


 BJJ Is For Plus Sized People, Too 1

  When I first started BJJ, I was fairly thin, mostly because I was always on a diet, always trying to lose weight, and always adding workouts to my week or minutes to my workouts.  When my first coach suggested that I try to cut some weight for a competition, […]


Remembering to Breathe 1

  You know that soul-crushing moment when your opponent passes your guard to secure side control…then they settle in heart to heart and you just feel the weight suddenly crushing your very existence? Of course it feels great when you’re the one doing the soul-crushing (and bonus points when you […]


It’s Our Journey

  “A black belt only covers two inches of your a$$– you have to cover the rest,” said best by Royce Gracie. And it is true. A black belt is that, just a belt. It is what that belt represents that matters: the countless hours of training, the blood, sweat, […]


Is It All About Me?

  I sit resting in my favorite recliner with my foot  up and a knee bandaged and covered in ice packs. I had knee surgery today because of an injury I acquired while practicing take downs for my first competition. My husband diligently helps me with the rotating of ice […]


The Spirit of Resilience

As soon as I got off my call with Mary Aldana, the only thing I wanted to do was put on my gi and get on the mat. If it had not been 6:00 am, I just might have! Mary’s enthusiasm about Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and her resilient spirit echoed in […]


Just Crazy Enough To Do It

  As we’ve all tried to adjust to what the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu ‘scene’ looks like during a global pandemic, I had the great pleasure of interviewing April Parks. She is a BJJ Black Belt out of Syracuse, New York and founder of Grappling Getaways: grappling camps with world-class Jiu […]


Three Powerful Steps When Encountering Naysayers about Your BJJ Addiction 1

  “You’re off to class again?  How often do you have to go?  Why don’t you try something safer?” an anxiety-prone mother asked her 30-year-old adult daughter. Do you have friends, family, coworkers, or loved ones who simply do not understand?  They have never walked in your footsteps, or rather, […]


We Can Do It! 2

  It’s been ten years since I’ve started Jiu-Jitsu and I was just a blue belt up until a few weeks ago. It’s hard to admit that without a little bit of shame or embarrassment. But I know that everyone’s journey in this sport is different. Everyone has their reasons […]


Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable 2

Like most practitioners, when I first tried Brazilian Jiu Jitsu I was instantly hooked. Although unlike many, I wanted to begin live rolling right away, as in my first ever class, right away. I saw it as an integral part of the training process and was eager to delve right […]