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Tips To Improve Women’s Expriences In Your Gym 1

  I believe most coaches and gym owners want women (and all students) to feel comfortable and safe when training. It’s important to set a tone in your gym. How do you know if your gym is both safe for and accepting of women? How can you retain female students?  […]


It’s Our Journey

  “A black belt only covers two inches of your a$$– you have to cover the rest,” said best by Royce Gracie. And it is true. A black belt is that, just a belt. It is what that belt represents that matters: the countless hours of training, the blood, sweat, […]


Creating Boundaries

  To all the girls/ladies/women/she-beasts who are nervous about rolling with the guys, I see you: the jiujiteiras who only want to roll with women, who stick to the ladies-only classes.  You could be new and not used to mix-gender sports. Maybe you’re just starting to notice that the boys are […]


Finding Strength in Trauma 1

    Only a small percentage of people understand what it is we do, this sport called Jiu Jitsu. Very few get it for what it really is; many others portray it as violent or find it invasive. I’ll admit it I too saw it this way, but now it […]


I Promise, Your BJJ Game Won’t Disappear During Quarantine 1

It’s a tough time to be a BJJ addict, amirite ladies? Many of us have been out of the gym since late March or early April. Some of us, like me, are still out because our life circumstances prevent us from going back safely, even if everyone is just doing […]


The Privilege of Training 1

This global pandemic has left me missing several aspects of my daily life, one of the most prominent among them being jiu-jitsu. Something that has become such a large part of my weekly routine, has left a big hole in the wake of its absence. Jiu-jitsu is not only one […]


Training With Your Significant Other

  Not everyone has trouble training with their significant other and that’s wonderful.  I’m genuinely happy for them. I am not one of them.  I am one of those, that no matter who wins or loses the match, or who is drilling the move while the other is the dummy, […]


Keep On Swimming

  From the shore at Oceanside Pier, the waves separating me from the course looked small, maybe 1-3 feet. Once in the water, though, the waves were well over my head. Once I passed the first set of breakers, I had to navigate through the second set without the advantage […]


It’s Never Too Late To Embrace The Jiu Jitsu Addiction 3

On March 22nd, 2019, Sandi Duquette and Susan Gordon faced off in a monumental match. They were at the IBJJF Pans at UC-Irvine, and faced off in a Women’s Master 7 blue belt bout. Sandi and Susan began the match sizing each other up, each trying to take the other […]


‘Welcome home. It’s good to have you back.’ 11

I was gang raped at fifteen. I was a freshman in high school. My assailants did not serve time. No one believed me. I changed schools. I grew older. Life marched on. I moved to Seattle Washington at thirty. I was stalked by two different men while coming home from […]